Death Cafe Practitioners Page
I have been hosting Death Cafe every 2-3 weeks since 2018. I am also a Death Educator in real life. However, I have been very careful never to mention what I do, nor allow industry people to use DC as a marketing or advice-giving platform. I've also attended a couple of other DC's where it was like a networking event for EOL industry people. Definitely don't want that.
I want to ensure a safe space for open discussion with no expectations of an outcome. But human beings are problem solvers!
My question for you is: where is the line? Do you offer advice and resources in your cafes? Do you allow information sharing and problem solving when pragmatic questions are asked? I do not wish to instruct or educate, but I keep getting asked by my regulars to provide insight, and I am not sure how to proceed. AM I being to rigid in how I am interpereting the rules?
Looking for guidance on the spirit and intent of Death Cafe.
With gratitude, Gina
O movimento death cafe se amplia cada vez mais no Brasil, dada importância desse espaço de acolhimento aberto para a fala e a escuta respeitosa sobre vida e morte.
Estamos em uma linda comunhão entre os diversos death cafes no Brasil.
Gratidão por participar desse importante movimento mundial.
Hello, I'm in a rather sad and odd position with a dear friend in the US (New Mexic) dying from MS. She is quite paralyzed and it's becoming very difficult for her to swallow and the paralyzed Disability is getting worse and worse. she has been approved for assisted diying in Switzerland and very very very much wants to get there. This is of course been complicated with Covid restrictions because they would send a caretaker from Europe to get her in there because she cannot make that trip alone with her disability. Europeans are not allowed into the US, however US citizens are allowed into Switzerland and allowed to return to the US as well. I am looking for any sources of nursing care that she can pay someone to take her to Switzerland and get her through those flights and to her destinations. She may need the nurse to stay for some days while she settles in. Nursing care would not have to stay for the assisted dying event. Do you know of anywhere where I could get anyone that would fit this description that she could pay? They do not have to be an actual nurse but definitely a strong an able-bodied caretaker. She can get herself around she's not completely paralyzed but it will be a very difficult trip for her. Please let me know if you have any insight. Thank you!
Dear Death Cafe Practitioner,
I hope you don't mind me contacting you this way. I wanted to share with you a piece of research I am undertaking in relation to feelings following a bereavement; and ask your help in recruiting interested participants.
My research relates to emotions experienced following a bereavement, in particular positive emotions, such as relief, gratefulness, peace, etc. I have a suspicion that bereaved people sometimes do experience positive emotions, but hide them because they fear that such emotions are wrong in some way, and that society will condemn them.
I hope that by researching this issue, I can shed a bit more light on this phenomenon, and help normalise such experiences for people experiencing bereavement.
I wonder if any of your death cafe contacts or acquaintances might be interested in taking part? I can provide further details and an email poster, if you think they might be interested.
Thank you in anticipation of any help you can provide.
I've been thinking about doing this for a very long time and have decided to go ahead with it!
I just wondered (considering this climate) about how others have been managing with group gatherings because of Covid, if at all?
I will start it on zoom if I need to but I'd much rather have just a small group where I can keep social distancing either at my home or in a local cafe.
I'd welcome your thoughts on it.
Are there any photos that we can download and use without copyright or by referencing the artist / photographer?
Tips for hosting a large Death Cafe on Zoom with breakout rooms
- Everyone booked by email. I was wary of a person attending with whom others might feel unsafe, so when a new person I’d not met before emailed and wanted to book, I engaged them in an email conversation a little first. Asked where they lived, if they’d been to a DC before, what their name was if it wasn’t obvious.
Once they’d chatted on email, then I sent them the link and extra info.
(One person emailed to book, then didn’t reply to my ‘chat’ and disappeared. They hadn’t told ...
I thought this was a "closed" area, but discovered that anything posted on the practitioner page shows up on google searches. I learned this when searching for something Death Cafe related without being logged in. You have to be logged in to post, that's all. Just wanting people to be aware that anything written here is publicly available.
I found a really useful thread after typing in "Death Cafe and suicide conversations". It was good to have Jon's comments & others' views. In my 3 years of hosting I haven't come across this (other than people attending whose relatives or friends had committed suicide).
Yesterday we had a young woman attend who for years has wished to die. She is not ill. She has made detailed plans but is in limbo for various reasons. It
certainly made the group
think about our own
attitudes, beliefs and so on &
we handled it well in the
moment. She probably will
attend again so any
comments most welcome. I
thought about asking her
what she's hoping to get
from the group. What is most useful from us - as facilitators & participants? Obviously something drew her to attend.
As of today (5 April 2020) Zoom has made password and waiting room default settings. Two of my work colleagues have had unfortunate experiences (harrassment, showing porn, general disruption) on Zoom. Follow the instructions on the ADL site for extra security.
The Guardian carried this: https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2020/apr/02/zoom-technology-security-coronavirus-video-conferencing
Happy Zooming and hosting Death Cafes online - be prepared & be safe!
We need to cancel our upcoming Death Cafe. How do I show this.
THINKING ABOUT TAKING YOUR DEATH CAFE ONLINE?
We've received a little flurry of emails asking about Virtual Death Cafes; how to plan, what works and what doesn't. The emails are coming to me from the main death cafe website where we've been posting our Virtual Death Cafes since January.
I thought it might be helpful to share some information here for any other hosts who are thinking about taking their Death Cafe's online.
Zoom is an excellent platform for these conversations. We generally get 40 to 50 people interested and far fewer who actually show up. About a third of those who express an ...
Our new premises are charging a fee and a charity has offerred a grant to cover this, but they've asked for a copy of our safeguarding policy. Does anyone have any idea od where I can find some suitable guidance or a template?
Many thanks in advance,
I am very excited to host a Death Café in São José dos Campos- São Paulo-Brazil
One attendee asked how she could delete from a relative's facebook entry material he had posted about her - without her premission.
Any help welcome - relative will not do this on her request.